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Think Twice! Relationship Abuse Prevention and Recovery Counselling and Programs for Couples and Individuals Experiencing Conflict and Abuse in Their Relationships
Toni McLean & Associates Mittagong and Bowral NSW info@thinktwiceprogram.net 0409 599 887 |
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What is Abusive Behaviour in a Relationship? Abusive behaviour is: · any persistent, repetitive behaviour which serves to make one partner feel disrespected, controlled or threatened in their relationship · any controlling behaviour which serves to keep the other partner compliant and powerless in the relationship And has a variety of forms: threatening, verbal, psychological, emotional, physical, sexual, financial, social, spiritual, assuming male superiority or entitlement Any of us may have performed some of the behaviours below either once or occasionally, without it being considered partner abuse. However, when the behaviour is frightening; dangerous; repetitive; part of an escalating pattern of conflict; or intended to control the other; then it is destructive of the relationship and can be considered partner abuse. Threatening / Intimidating Using gestures, looks, actions to intimidate or control your partner Making and/or carrying out threats to hurt or punish your partner Frequently threatening to leave Threatening to kill your partner or yourself Coercing your partner to comply with your wishes Coercing your partner to drop a protection order or other charges Damaging property or abusing pets Displaying weapons in a threatening way Using access to the children to hurt or intimidate your partner Threatening to take the children away Making your partner feel guilty about the children Verbal Name-calling, insults or criticising your partner’s appearance or other personal characteristics Calling your partner crazy, stupid, useless Discounting, trivialising or denying what your partner says or believes Using jokes or sarcasm to cover insults or criticism Blaming your partner when it is not your partner’s fault Making false accusations about your partner Humiliating your partner in front of others Emotional / Psychological Using guilt to make your partner comply with what you want Playing mind games, eg discounting or denying what your partner says, denying having done or said something Humiliating your partner in front of others Refusing to discuss issues, or ignoring, sulking, or storming out of discussions Making light of or denying destructive behaviours Not hearing/ignoring the concerns of your partner Withholding important information Physical Pushing, shoving, tripping, shaking, choking, pulling hair, squeezing tightly Hitting, punching, beating, kicking, biting, burning Throwing things at your partner Hitting with an object, using a weapon Sexual Insisting on sex when your partner doesn’t want to, or sexual behaviour your partner doesn’t like Unwanted sexual touching or sexual jokes Forcing your partner to watch or read pornography Deliberately withholding sex to punish or control your partner Threatening to go elsewhere for sex Financial Making financial decisions without consulting your partner Keeping control of the money and denying your partner access to it Preventing your partner from getting a job Forcing your partner to get a job Making your partner ask for money Being secretive or dishonest about finances Social Controlling what your partner does, where s/he goes, whom s/he sees, how long s/he spends anywhere, what s/he wears, how s/he behaves Sabotaging his or her plans Being rude to his or her friends or family Preventing his or her family and friends from visiting Spiritual Preventing him or her from practising a religion or spiritual path Insulting his or her choice of religion or spiritual path Forcing him or her to practice a religion or spiritual path you choose Using religious texts or “beliefs” to justify abusive behaviour
Entitlement Treating your partner like a servant Acting like ‘ruler of the castle’ Insisting on more respect or better treatment than your partner Insisting your partner comply with strict traditional male/female roles against their wishes Making big decisions without consulting your partner Insisting on your needs being more important than your partner’s Believing you’re always right and make better decisions than your partner |
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